If somebody really loves you, they will change. Not lose themselves, not become somebody they’re not. But they’ll care enough to confront the parts of them that keep hurting you. Because love doesn’t just keep saying, that’s just how I am. Whle, doing the same things that keep breaking a relationship. That’s not love. That’s comfort.
And a lot of people confused the two because when you really value something, you adjust for it. You get more careful, more honest, more accountable. So when somebody says, they love you, but keeps this disrespecting you, keeps triggering you, keeps doing the same things that make you feel unsane unsafe or small. That is not a love issue. That is a priority issue because change is not something you keep talking about. It’s something you demostrate.
If I know what hurt you, and I keep choosing it anyway, what I love is not you. I love access to you. and Access without accounbility is how people get contable, Misstreating good people. Love, does not mean, you shrink to keep somebody. But if you truey love somebody, you should want to become easier to love too.
That mean is checking your tone. Checkking your pride. Checking your ego. Checking your inconsistency. Checking the ways you make love Harder then it has to be. Because love is not just connection. Love is consideration.
And if you’ve been over adjusting, while somebody el stays comfortable, that’s exactly why rote love in your own hans. For the person whos’s tired of caling it love when there’s the only one doing to growing. So stop asking only, do they love me? and ask has thir love made the more considerate. As thir love made the more accountable, more willing to grow. because real love does not feel something, It does something!.
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